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Sexual Purity

  • Sexual Purity Web Page

The LORD your God says,
“Be holy, because I AM holy.”
 

Where do you have challenges concerning sexual purity and holiness?

                - Lustful Thoughts                - Pornography
                - Extra-Marital Sex               - Strip Clubs
                - Massage Parlors                 - Prostitutes
                - Masturbation                       - Pre-Marital Sex

 

STEPS TO TAKE:

1. Ask someone that you trust to talk privately about your challenges with purity. You need to confess in a safe environment.

2. Install Covenant Eyes on your Cell Phone and PC... ask your trusted friend to be your Accountability Partner.

3. Commit to weekly meetings with a Christian mentor or small group. Be open about discussing your purity challenges.  Read the Bible daily - - yes daily. Discuss what you have read each week at your meeting.

4. Consider taking additional steps like:
      a. Install the "Beyond Sundays" app on your cell phone. (Reading Scripture is proven to help you behave more godly.)
      b. Join an MBC Ministry Fellowship Group (i.e. Like SMP3, see MBC Fellowship Groups listed below.)
      c. Watch the MBC / XXX Church workshops online. There are 6 Tracks to choose from: Porn, Sex, Accountability, Pre-Marriage, Parenting, and Visual.
      d. Attend a conference or workshop like “Every Man’s Battle”. (See Other Resources listed below.)

5. Understand that a meager effort will fail.  So make a plan that has regular weekly support for you. This is a proven strategy for success.

Frequently Asked Questions

I am not “addicted” to porn, but I do sometimes have temptations.  What’s the best approach for me to take?
Watch these short videos, below.
Then follow the “Steps To Take” section above:
Porn Activation Sequence
Practical Steps to Quitting Porn
 

I may be addicted to porn, drugs or alcohol. 
How can you help me?

To get started, watch the video below.
Then contact someone!  See “Steps to Take” section above.
Sex Addiction Struggles

Contact the MBC Counseling Center
703-770-8670

You may also find help here for various addictions:
Celebrate Recovery Groups  
CC Group in Fairfax, VA
 

I cheated on my spouse.  What should I do now?
Watch this video as a start.
Rebuilding Trust in Marriage after Porn

Contact the MBC Counseling Center.
703-770-8670

Consider joining one of our Marriage Ministry fellowship groups that helps troubled marriages. (See MBC Fellowship Groups list below)
 

My child is watching porn online.  How do I protect them?
Here are some videos to get you started:
Kids and Pornography – Protect & Teach
Protect Your Family Online
How to Sign Up for a Family Account
Keeping Kids Safe from Porn

Circle by Disney - Home Internet Filter / Manager
 

My spouse may be addicted to porn. 
What do I do?

Watch these videos to learn more:
Is Porn Really an Addiction?
Porn Activation Sequence
Practical Steps to Quitting Porn
What is Covenant Eyes?
Install Covenant Eyes on iPhone
 

I want to talk to someone confidentially about my situation.  Who can I call?
Contact the MBC Counseling Center.
703-770-8670
 

I have same sex attraction.  Can you help me?
Watch this video from The Gospel Coalition, it may be of help.
You Are Not Your Sexuality  
 

How can I ask a friend to talk to me about sexual purity?  Do you have any suggestions for how to begin a conversation like that?
Who is your best friend?  The person that knows the most about you - - the real you.  I would start with them.  Just be honest, be humble, and ask them to listen.  Tell them that you have an embarrassing problem, and you need someone to talk to.  NOTE: This person may not be the best person to give you advice on what to do next.  But you do need to confess to someone, so this is a start.  Next you need to seek out good biblical counsel.  Watch this video. 
Practical Steps to Quitting Porn
 

If I put Covenant Eyes software on my PC or Phone, who will be able to see that I am participating?  How secure is the information from hackers?
You have complete control over who sees your info.  Before you sign up for Covenant Eyes, talk to the person that you trust (who will be your Accountability Partner).  Then when you sign up, you will enter their info as your Partner.  Watch this video.
Choosing an Accountability Partner
 

If my Accountability Partner (for Covenant Eyes) calls me to discuss some “inappropriate web page visits”, how do you suggest we structure that conversation?
Here’s a video that may help.
Accountability Conversation
 

What is "Circle by Disney"?
Very easy to set up, Circle pairs with your home Wi-Fi and let's you manage every device on your network, no matter what kind, without ever needing to put software on them.  The idea behind Circle is not to spy on your family’s online activity. Instead the goal is to set limits on what your children can access online, when they can access it, and for how long.  If Johnny spends too much time on Facebook, for example, you could limit his access to one hour a day. Circle offers filters to refuse access to certain parts of the web based on a child’s age.  Circle is able to monitor any device connected to your home network including laptops, tablets, smart TVs, and game consoles.  Thanks to Circle’s partnership with Disney, device owners also get access to a collection of Disney content, including videos and music.
 

If I join a Small Group, and start openly discussing my sexual purity issues, what will the group think of me?
Don’t just start immediately talking about hard core issues at the group.  Consider talking to the group leader 1-on-1 about the topic first.  Then he can help steer the conversation when the time is right.  Warm up with some high level discussion on the importance of living a godly life of integrity.  Talk about how all sinfulness is equally evil in God’s sight.  Ask the other men if they have any challenges with things like profanity, lying, porn, etc.  When others in the group admit to living with temptations and sin, then you will be among friends with similar challenges.
 

If I read the Bible, will it really address things like porn and sexual purity? 
Yes.  Jesus said that if we look upon a woman with lust, then we have committed adultery in our heart. – Matthew 5:28.  There is a list of more related Scriptures below on this page.
 

What is the SMP3 group?
It’s a group of men that meet every Monday at MBC Tysons to discuss their challenges with sexual purity, and encourage each other to grow closer to the Lord.  SMP3 (Men: Spiritual Maturity and Sexual Purity)
 

What is “Every Man’s Battle”?
It’s a weekend workshop that takes place at various cities around the USA throughout the year.  Rather expensive, but every man that attends will agree that it’s worth it. 
Every Man’s Battle Workshop
 

What MBC Fellowship Groups can I join?
See the list below.
 

What Other Resources are available?
See the list below.
 

What Bible Verses apply to Sexual Purity?
See the list below.

MBC Fellowship Groups

Small Groups (All ages, All people)

Access Community (Disabilities) Lectures

Chinese Ministry Fellowship

Christianity 101 (Learn the Basics)

Citywide / Groups (Young Adults 20s & 30s)

Divorce Care (Support Group)

Hope for the Separated (Support Group)

Family Matters (Parents of Young Children)

First Light (Morning Men’s Community)

FOCUS (Single Adults mid-40s+)

Friends & Fellowship (Adult Bible Study)

Friendship Club (Young Adults with Disabilities 16+)

FUEL (Single Adults 30s to 40s)

Grief Share (Adults Grieving Someone’s Death)

Hearing Impaired Group

Intercultural Outreach Community (All Nations)

Jews for Jesus

Living Well with Cancer or Illness

Loaves & Fishes Community (Adult Men & Women)

Loving Our Prodigals (Parents of Troubled Teens)

Marriage Mentoring

Preparing For Marriage

Re Engage (Marriage Ministry)

The UNION (Newly Married & Engaged Couples)

Mothering Matters (Moms)

On His Course (Golf Players Ministry)

On His Road (Motorcycle Riders Ministry)

Parent Support Group (Special Needs Kids)

Persian Ministry Fellowship

Prime Time (60+)

SMP3 (Men: Spiritual Maturity and Sexual Purity)

The ROCK / High School Ministry Groups

Transitions (Parents of Teenagers)

Men’s Community Bible Study

Women’s Community Bible Study

Seminars / Conferences

 

Sexual Purity Workshops were held at MBC on Sunday, Oct. 30, 2016.

 If you were unable to attend, we will post the video and slide show here.

Slide Show from Workshop

 

 

 

 

 

 

Other Resources

Beyond Sundays (cell phone app with Scripture verses, proven to help you behave more godly)

MBC Men's Conference on Purity
Register for Men's Conference

Circle with Disney (Home Internet Filter)

iParent.tv (Keeps parents informed on the latest trends.)

Enough is Enough (Helping parents protect children)

Protect Young Eyes (Strategies to protect kids online)

Celebrate Recovery Groups (weekly support group)

Restoration 1:99 (therapeutic services for the sexually exploited)

Every Man’s Battle Workshop (weekend event)

Regeneration Ministries (men, women, parents)

Watermark Church (J.P. Pokluda sermons/blog)

Sex Addicts Anonymous (Find a path to recovery)

Sexaholics Anonymous (12-step program for men and women)

24 Hour Crisis Center – Montgomery County, MD

Domestic Violence – Fairfax County, VA

What is Covenant Eyes?

Practical Steps to Quitting Porn

Intoxicated on Life (for Parents, Family Strategies)

Sean McDowell (for Parents)

Sean McDowell (for Students)

Beggar’s Daughter Blog (for Women)

Beggar’s Daughter Blog (for Young Adult Women)

Brave Hearts Mentoring (for Men - Young & Old)

Barna 2016 Research on Porn (Everyone’s Affected)

Veriato (aka Spector Soft) - Employee monitoring software

Open DNS (Web filtering software by Cisco)

Books:

"The Game Plan" by Joe Dallas (Immediate help for men, a 10-day strategy for "I just got caught, what now?")

"5 Steps to Breaking Free from Porn" by Joe Dallas

"Eyes of Integrity" by Craig Gross (Overcoming our culture which does not value integrity.)

"Pure Eyes" by Craig Gross

"Counter Culture" by David Platt (How should Christians respond to our liberal culture?)

Bible Verses on Sexual Purity

Reading Scripture is proven to help you behave in more godly ways. Install this app on your cell phone today!  Beyond Sundays

Ephesians 5:31

1 Thessalonians 4:3–5

2 Corinthians 5:17–21

Galatians 5:19

Galatians 5:22–23

1 Corinthians 6:18–20

Hebrews 13:4

Matthew 19:4–5

1 Corinthians 6:9–11

Romans 1:24

Galatians 5:19

Ephesians 4:19

Matthew 5:8

Psalm 24:3-4

1 John 1:9

1 Peter 2:11

Romans 6:17-18

Ephesians 2:3

Psalm 119:9-16

Biblical Steps to Victory:

1. Confess your sins to God (1 John 1:9). Admit you have a problem. Admit that to someone else too.

2. Ask God to cleanse, renew, and transform your mind (Romans 12:2). Ask God for help!

3. Ask God to fill your mind with Philippians 4:8 thoughts. Transform your thoughts.

4. Learn to possess your body in holiness (1 Thessalonians 4:3-4). Take small steps.

5. Understand the proper meaning of sex, and rely on your spouse alone to meet that need (1 Corinthians 7:1-5).

6. Realize that if you walk in the Spirit, you will not fulfill the lust of the flesh (Galatians 5:16).

7. Take practical steps to reduce your exposure to graphic images.

8. Set up accountability (both on your computer and face to face).

 

Contact Information 
MBC Main Phone No.
Front Desk
703-639-2000
Childcare Options 
Childcare is not provided